Common examples include getting older, developing emotional intelligence, dealing with parenthood, retirement, and relationships.
While we all go through similar changes, some people handle change better than others do. Stability can bring us comfort, but at the same time, it can be limiting.
For instance, you might be well into your adulthood, have a good career, are financially stable, and have a family to take care of.
These are all amazing things, but you might not be fully satisfied with where you currently are.
Another example is being with the same business for a while, and the prospect of continuing to work for them for another five years is terrifying.
You might dream about doing something different, but are scared of entering a realm of new possibilities.
A lot of us think that it’s too late to start over, but this belief can hold us back from reaching our full potential.
No matter where you are in life, it’s never too late to start a new journey.
You’ll learn some amazing tips that can help you start over in this post. If you’re ready to start fresh and switch up your life once more, keep reading!
How To Start Over?
Before you start the process of starting over, it’s important to remember to be kind to yourself on this journey.
Don’t beat yourself up if you’re feeling stuck in a routine.
You’ve already done a very important step, which is deciding that you want to make a change.
Let’s go over the steps that can help you start over and begin a new chapter in your life.
1. Personal Reflection
It’s easy to think about who you want to be, but you need to think about who you currently are before you can make these changes.
Set out a time and space for personal reflection, allowing yourself to sit with your thoughts and think about your life so far.
It might be helpful to take a journal and write down any important notions you come up with.
2. Think About Your Values
Most people find that their values have changed as they have gotten older.
This might not be a complete departure from your original values in the past, but you might have gone through experiences that make you favor different ones instead.
These might be ethics or standards that reflect your present age or circumstances.
If you want to start over, you need to look at the bigger picture and think about the things you value.
What are your core ethics? Is anything missing, or do you want anything to change?
3. Look Back At Your Goals
You may have set yourself goals a while ago, but you don’t need to stick to them if they don’t currently align with your circumstances.
Your personal goals will change along your journey. If you have made targets for yourself, but haven’t given them much thought, this is the time to look back at these aims.
Remember that your goals don’t need to be huge ones! It’s better to reach a few small, attainable goals over time, than to set yourself larger ones that are harder to achieve.
If you have a larger goal in mind, make some small, attainable targets that can help you reach this one in the end.
For instance, if you want to become more active, you could set goals to take long walks outside three or four times each week.
Focusing on this target alone for a while will help you reach your overall goal.
4. Commit To The Process
You might want to make big changes, but making this commitment is harder than it sounds. Commitment requires bravery, honesty, and cognizance.
After you have an idea of your starting point, values, and targets, you will need to commit to the change. This is more to do with your perspective instead of physical changes.
It can be helpful to think of ‘starting fresh’, instead of ‘starting over’.
This changes your mindset to be grateful that you get to begin a new chapter. Positive affirmations can be a good tool to help you with this.
Bear in mind that while you do control your life, some things will be out of your control.
Nevertheless, you will always be able to decide how you will act in response to these events.
You can choose to make decisions that will benefit you instead of ones that sabotage your progress.
5. Time For Action
After you’ve done the above steps, you can now make the steps towards your new chapter.
Look at your larger and smaller, attainable goals, and make the moves towards reaching them.
Whether you want to take up a new hobby, learn a new skill, travel more, or start dating after a breakup, you will need to make a move towards your goals.
As mentioned above, you don’t have to make huge changes. Smaller moves can help you reach the larger goals that you want to achieve.
6. Get Support
It can be difficult to make changes to your life without support.
Seek help and guidance from your closest friends and family members, as these people can help ensure that you are on track towards your goals.
Seeking advice from a therapist or coach can be beneficial too.
These people will have an objective perspective, allowing you to reflect on your journey and help give you a push when needed.
7. Revisiting And Being Present
Progress isn’t a straight line, so there may be days that are harder than others. It’s fine to fail, as long as you keep trying and pursuing your dreams.
Check in on your progress and your present state regularly to ensure you’re keeping on track. If you aren’t, that’s fine! You’re human after all.
Stay positive, make some new targets for yourself, and see where you are in a few weeks.
Learning from your mistakes is how you become a better person in the future.
The Bottom Line
If you want to start over, there’s no point waiting around for the right time. You can start changing your life right now, in the present!
The steps above will help you begin a new chapter and get out of your comfort zone.
Failure is a part of this process, but try to stay positive and be kind to yourself along the way.
Before you know it, you will have come a long way from where you were before!
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