Firstly, you’re not alone. Many people will feel this way at some point during their lives. Secondly, we’re here to tell you that all is not lost!
Even if it feels like everything is getting on top of you and you’ll never get back to a place where you feel in control of your life, rest assured that there are steps you can take to get back on track and ultimately get your life together again.
Here are the steps we recommend taking if you want to get your life together, starting today.
Getting Your Life Together In 8 Steps
1. Confide In Someone You Trust
If you feel like elements of your life have gotten out of control, the first thing to do is talk about it with someone you trust.
It can feel very vulnerable to discuss things like financial difficulties or mental health struggles with others, but choosing a trusted loved one to confide in will lift some of the weight from your shoulders – after all, a problem shared is a problem halved.
It also ensures that you’ll have someone to support you and reach out to for advice while you’re taking the following steps to get your life together.
2. Identify Your Goals
What would getting your life together look like for you? Maybe you want to get your finances in order, organize your home, go to college or get your dream job.
Take some time to think about your life goals and how getting your life together will make these possible.
Remembering your reasons to put in the hard work getting your life back on track will provide you with motivation when things get tough and help you to make intelligent decisions that bring you closer to the life you want.
3. Honesty And Self-Responsibility
While it’s definitely true that our lives can be affected by circumstances outside of our control, it’s also important to be honest with yourself and identify where you might be getting in your own way.
Moreover, remembering that you are ultimately responsible for yourself will go a long way towards helping you get your life together.
For example, if you keep telling yourself you’ll spend the weekend studying for your college entrance exam, but end up going out with friends every single time, it can be easy to blame other people for tempting you away from your goals.
However, in this kind of situation, you need to be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your willpower and decisions.
One helpful way to make sure you’re honestly accepting responsibility for yourself is to practice looking at the situation from an outside perspective.
Confiding in someone you trust (see step 1) can really help with this.
4. No More Procrastination
Let’s get down to some cold, hard truths now: you’re not going to get your life together if you keep procrastinating.
No, making mood boards of organized houses on Pinterest is not the same as actually organizing your living space, and putting off important tasks just to spend the evening watching Netflix is not the way to get back on track.
Of course, we all need rest and time to enjoy ourselves, but there’s a definite line between self-care and self-indulgence.
At the start of every day, make yourself a to-do list with tasks in order of priority and get the important things out of the way first so you’re not tempted to leave them for later.
5. Make Organization A Priority
Organization in all areas of your life is the key to getting your life together.
Whether it’s physically organizing your living space (tidy house, tidy mind!), clearing out your inbox or making a budget spreadsheet, being organized will help you to stay productive, feel less overwhelmed, and make wise decisions.
If you don’t know where to start when it comes to getting your life together, begin by identifying areas of your life that feel chaotic and thinking about what you can do to restore order (Also check out the How To Start Over?).
6. Spend Free Time Productively
Don’t panic, we’re not suggesting that you spend every minute of free time working on a side hustle or doing more chores. As we mentioned earlier, making time for self-care is important.
However, if your version of self-care currently looks like bubble baths and wine, it may be worth reconsidering how you can take care of yourself more productively.
For example, while a bubble bath might genuinely be what you need sometimes, you should try to make things like cooking healthy meals, going for walks, reading and sharing meaningful quality time with friends and family more of a priority.
All of these things will actively benefit your physical and mental health, which is crucial if you want to be in the best position to get your life together.
7. Focus On Your Health
Speaking of physical and mental health, focusing on your health is so important that it needs its own spot on our list.
Physical and mental illness can really get in the way of sorting out your life, and while these things aren’t fully within our control, they are within our influence.
Make sure you’re nourishing your body correctly and getting enough exercise. Avoid things that negatively impact your mental health, such as toxic people or excessive alcohol consumption.
8. Seek Professional Guidance
If you’re finding it difficult to get your life back on track due to any number of circumstances, from poor mental health to financial difficulties, remember that there are people and services you can reach out to for help.
While talking to loved ones can be really helpful, some situations call for professional guidance from a counselor, financial advisor, or even a life coach.
Don’t be afraid or ashamed to reach out for professional help if you need it.
Final Thoughts
Getting your life together may not be easy, but it will definitely be worth it. Always keep your motivations for getting your life together in mind, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help.
Hi, we are Ben Easter and Paige Stephens-Easter, and we have been married for 10 years. Together, we have immersed ourselves in the world of personal development, with our full-time business - Lucid Shift Coaching.
We believe that mental health and mindfulness are the most important things in a relationship, and we need to cherish these things in order to be the best versions of ourselves.
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