Personal Development

You’re getting somewhere in your business, and it’s pretty great.

But wait, do you really belong at this level? Maybe it was all just dumb luck, and others are going to find out pretty soon that you don’t deserve to be here. When’s it all gonna come crashing down?

It sounds like you’ve got a case of impostor syndrome.

Impostor syndrome is a common issue among business owners. It’s that nagging sense of doubt that says, “You don’t deserve to be where you are right now.” Gaining a fresh perspective on your skills, your accomplishments and your worth as a person can help you overcome impostor syndrome.

Have you ever wished you were a genius? What if I told you that, in your own way, you already are one? Everyone’s got a Zone of Genius. Your task is to identify yours and then live within it.

Your Zone of Genius is the intersection of what you love, what you’re good at and what you can get paid for. Why identify your Zone of Genius? When you work within your Zone of Genius, you’ll be really alive, and you’ll serve what the world needs.

If you’ve ever worked with a therapist or a relationship coach, you may have been introduced to the Drama Triangle. It’s a model for understanding the unhealthy relationships we can establish with other people, ourselves, or the world around us. Perhaps you’ve also seen The Empowerment Dynamic, an inverse model that puts a positive twist on each of the Drama Triangle roles. What you might not know, though, is what to do with those models — how to flip the switch from Drama to Empowerment.

The difference between the Drama Triangle and The Empowerment Dynamic hinges on the belief about the person at the center — a Victim with a fundamental lack or a Creator who’s resourceful and complete. With a shift in that core assumption, you can flip from toxicity to empowerment in your life.

That may be the lens through which you’ve been viewing things for a long time. But despite the fact that it makes sense in your head, it’s not helping you be the person you want to be or find what you’re looking for in life.

It’s time to reassess your foundational thinking patterns.

You aren’t observing things as they are. Rather, you are observing things as you are. That’s a powerful realization. Once you grasp it — and shift your thinking accordingly — it will become the foundation for the transformation work in your life.

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle of self-blame? You look around at your life and feel nothing but judgment for the person you are and the things you’ve done. It’s like a war within yourself. There’s freedom available from the war within yourself. It starts with compassion and curiosity. You can explore who …

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flip the drama triangle to the more resourceful empowerment triangle dynamic.

Is there something fundamentally wrong with me? No, nobody is fundamentally broken. If you’re willing to integrate and learn your lessons, you can be a productive member of society, fulfill your intelligence, and bring your authentic self to the forefront.

If you’re tired of living a life of fear, then it’s time to move in the opposite direction. But what’s the opposite of fear — courage, perhaps? I’d challenge you to see that the opposite of fear is love.

What’s the trajectory that your life is on? Are you letting circumstances carry you along and just seeing where you end up, or are you being intentional about creating the reality that you want to experience?